10-year-old refuses to live with his mom after being forced to share a room with step-sister, father takes him in and stops paying alimony, mother tries to blame father for her struggling financial situation

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    "The court has ended the alimony...but getting full custody will take longer"
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    AITA for getting alimony ended when my ex moved in with her boyfriend?
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    Hello, I (41M) have a twelve year old son with my ex wife (37F). We divorced 5 years ago. I pay child support and (formerly) alimony. Shortly after our divorce, she took in her sister's son, who is currently ten. They live in our old home, which has three bedrooms.
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    Almost two years ago, my ex started dating a guy and is now 4ish months pregnant. He moved in about the same time she found out she was pregnant. He has a daughter from a previous relationship. His daughter was given her own room and my son and his cousin now share a room.
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    My son is upset about this and asked to live with me full time. I went to my lawyer and began that process to get full custody. I have wanted full custody since we divorced, but my son had never indicated he wanted that so I did not push for it. I also found out from my lawyer that my ex living with her boyfriend gives me the
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    right to terminate alimony in our state (my previous lawyer said it was only if she got remarried). So, I told him to go for it.
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    The court has ended the alimony. The custody is taking longer and won't be decided until after the holidays. My ex is ped about the loss of alimony it because she is only working part time and her boyfriend is a medically retired fireman. So, they are struggling financially. But, I feel that is extra money I could put away for my kid down the line.
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    Clint Eastwoods... NTA. I hope your son ends up in the best possible living situation.
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    meowlovve Your son deserves to feel prioritized, and if living with. you makes him happier, then you're doing the right thing. Your ex's financial situation isn't your responsibility anymore, especially since she's
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    then you're doing the right thing. Your ex's financial situation isn't your responsibility anymore, especially since she's building a new family with her boyfriend. Focus on your kid.
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    Independent-Fl... Not at all. Take care of your child. You are not responsible for her lifestyle
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    DisneyBuckeye NTA There is a big difference between child support and alimony (spousal support). The alimony is to help keep your spouse in the lifestyle they were used to, but is
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    typically not forever. Now that she's with a new guy, it shouldn't be your responsibility to pay for her lifestyle any longer. It's not your problem that he doesn't/can't work. Best wishes for success in the custody changes!
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    lovebeinganass... So you're supposed to support an entire family not related to you? No NTA. She's an a hole for even thinking about being mad.
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    RockerStubbs Sounds like your alimony was paying for a whole house full of people! Get custody of your son if you both want it. Then you don't have to pay child support either, highly likely that money is NOT going to just your son. NTA
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    throwitaway38... NTA. She can work full time. They abused you for far too long with alimony. They shouldn't have gotten pregnant if they're struggling financially.
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    BAHGate NTA and absolutely file for child support once you have custody.
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    Bluemicha Alimony is absolutely not your problem. She has had plenty of time to get a job and she was able to chose a partner who has financial problems. How in any way is that your fault?? She is the AH for even expecting you
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    to continue paying for her life without you in it. Hopefully you can get full custody of your son as well.
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    No_Glove_1575 NTA. She is in a 2 parent household now. Time to put her easy money to an end (especially when you get custody). You are NOT responsible for financing her. BFs kids and them shacking up. Or your former nephew.
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    Let her and her man pay their own bills - your son being taken care of is your only concern.

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